Comments on: Consensual Living http://attachedmama.net/2009/04/02/consensual-living/ A person's a person, no matter how small Thu, 10 Nov 2011 05:47:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Consensual Living | Natural Parents Network http://attachedmama.net/2009/04/02/consensual-living/comment-page-1/#comment-2214 Consensual Living | Natural Parents Network Tue, 28 Jun 2011 12:02:23 +0000 http://www.attachedmama.net/?p=24#comment-2214 [...] This article has been edited from a previous version published at Living in Harmony [...] [...] This article has been edited from a previous version published at Living in Harmony [...]

]]> By: KiwiLog http://attachedmama.net/2009/04/02/consensual-living/comment-page-1/#comment-347 KiwiLog Tue, 05 May 2009 16:07:43 +0000 http://www.attachedmama.net/?p=24#comment-347 What a wonderful, thought-provoking post. Definitely will be looking more into Consensual Living, as I really support a lifestyle that sort of encourages going with the flow, accepting things as they are (like in the case of a child's behavior at a restaurant) and realizing the incredibly small impact this has on the grand scheme of things. What a wonderful, thought-provoking post. Definitely will be looking more into Consensual Living, as I really support a lifestyle that sort of encourages going with the flow, accepting things as they are (like in the case of a child’s behavior at a restaurant) and realizing the incredibly small impact this has on the grand scheme of things.

]]> By: Stacy (mama-om) http://attachedmama.net/2009/04/02/consensual-living/comment-page-1/#comment-344 Stacy (mama-om) Tue, 14 Apr 2009 17:21:32 +0000 http://www.attachedmama.net/?p=24#comment-344 Thanks for writing this out so clearly and providing concrete examples (I am sure that every parent can relate to being in a restaurant with kids!). I often struggle to explain, too, where we're coming from and what we're going for as a family. When I became a mom (almost six years ago), my eyes were opened to how deeply ingrained conflict and violence are in our everyday lives and interactions. I found that most people thought I was overreacting when I talked about wanted to let those types of interactions go. I use the phrase <a href="http://mama-om.blogspot.com/2007/01/peaceful-parenting.html" rel="nofollow">peaceful parenting</a>, but there are many other phrases out there that are trying to capture the same thing. I am glad that there seem to be so many people who are listening to and following their hearts in this way! I remember seeing the Consensual Living site some time ago -- I am going to visit it again. Thank you, Stacy Thanks for writing this out so clearly and providing concrete examples (I am sure that every parent can relate to being in a restaurant with kids!).

I often struggle to explain, too, where we’re coming from and what we’re going for as a family. When I became a mom (almost six years ago), my eyes were opened to how deeply ingrained conflict and violence are in our everyday lives and interactions. I found that most people thought I was overreacting when I talked about wanted to let those types of interactions go.

I use the phrase peaceful parenting, but there are many other phrases out there that are trying to capture the same thing. I am glad that there seem to be so many people who are listening to and following their hearts in this way!

I remember seeing the Consensual Living site some time ago — I am going to visit it again.

Thank you,
Stacy

]]> By: Annie http://attachedmama.net/2009/04/02/consensual-living/comment-page-1/#comment-348 Annie Fri, 03 Apr 2009 20:10:15 +0000 http://www.attachedmama.net/?p=24#comment-348 I'd be in the boat of not going out for meals until it would be easier for my kids to be in the restaurant without getting in the way of the employees and disturbing other patrons. Leif likes to wander and explore at the moment but without the ability to really be aware of what's going on around him- like getting out of the way of a server. I always appreciate reading about consensual living when it's truly consensual! The family as a whole has to work and to do that everyone's needs need to be taken into account. It's definitely easier for parents than for children to put their needs aside temporarily and not expecting children to meet their needs is important but putting sole focus on what the child wants and needs only can't work. I’d be in the boat of not going out for meals until it would be easier for my kids to be in the restaurant without getting in the way of the employees and disturbing other patrons. Leif likes to wander and explore at the moment but without the ability to really be aware of what’s going on around him- like getting out of the way of a server.

I always appreciate reading about consensual living when it’s truly consensual! The family as a whole has to work and to do that everyone’s needs need to be taken into account. It’s definitely easier for parents than for children to put their needs aside temporarily and not expecting children to meet their needs is important but putting sole focus on what the child wants and needs only can’t work.

]]> By: AttachedMama http://attachedmama.net/2009/04/02/consensual-living/comment-page-1/#comment-346 AttachedMama Fri, 03 Apr 2009 18:19:53 +0000 http://www.attachedmama.net/?p=24#comment-346 I'm amazed that something like that would happen more than once lol! When I used to be a server, I would often ask the parents if they wanted their kids' food out first. Many parents took me up on that. I’m amazed that something like that would happen more than once lol! When I used to be a server, I would often ask the parents if they wanted their kids’ food out first. Many parents took me up on that.

]]> By: Jennifer http://attachedmama.net/2009/04/02/consensual-living/comment-page-1/#comment-345 Jennifer Fri, 03 Apr 2009 17:19:57 +0000 http://www.attachedmama.net/?p=24#comment-345 We used to go out for Sunday brunch every 2 weeks with a bunch of friends. The 2 kids were welcome and it was a family restaurant. They definitely had a hard time sitting still while waiting for food, but would settle down as soon as they got their food. But the funny thing is that more than once the server would come out with all the adults food and say I forgot about the kids' food so they are getting it ready now. It amazes me that they would do that when it is pretty obvious that most kids are happier when they have their food. We eventually had to ask for them to bring the kids' food right away. We used to go out for Sunday brunch every 2 weeks with a bunch of friends. The 2 kids were welcome and it was a family restaurant. They definitely had a hard time sitting still while waiting for food, but would settle down as soon as they got their food. But the funny thing is that more than once the server would come out with all the adults food and say I forgot about the kids’ food so they are getting it ready now. It amazes me that they would do that when it is pretty obvious that most kids are happier when they have their food. We eventually had to ask for them to bring the kids’ food right away.

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